LITES OF VEGAS ESTATES
"PUT A LITTLE LOVE IN YOUR HEART"
By Daneille Fawn

Swinging has probably gone on since the caveman, although no reported information is available. I’m sure all of us have heard the term “do as the Romans do,” and though this probably didn’t pertain to swinging, Romans were well-known for their orgies. In many cultures the sharing of partners holds no stigma. The first reported wife-swapping was initiated in World War I. Couples would arrange house parties and it was the promise of each of the men that should anything happen to the other’s mate, the other man would take care of the other wife’s needs (including sexually.) In the 1950’s, “KEY” home parties were created. The husband would deposit his keys in a bowl upon arrival, and at
the end of the night a woman would choose a set of keys and go home with the keys owner. This was known as “Wife Swapping” or “Key Parties.”

House parties started popping up throughout the world over the next few decades, and although anonymity prevailed during the early years of “Swinging,” things seemed to change dramatically in the early 70’s. The Lifestyle Organization held its first convention in California in 1973, and over the last 30 years the Lifestyle has continued to spread across the country and even into the most secluded areas. Information was word of mouth before that, with people you knew and kept in your circle of close friends, but it wasn’t until the early 90’s that the internet provided a tool for likeminded people helping the Lifestyle grow with message boards and forums. This allowed the swingers to “come out of the closet” and find new friends throughout the world.

Swinging or Lifestyle, has been portrayed in various ways. We’ve all seen and read a variety of interviews, stories and books on the subject that have gone straight to the “sexual” part of the Lifestyle. This is not always why people go to Lifestyle parties. In fact, if you ask most “swingers,” they will tell you that more times than not, they go home alone, but had a fantastic time. In my experience, it is the swing community’s emphasis on sex as a social and recreational activity between couples, and they place a major importance on the existing relationship in and out of the bed, and it makes it all worthwhile. It’s an opportunity to re-create that ``first date feeling’’ and the anticipation and excitement in
a safe environment that won’t harm your marriage. Most of the couples have been married for many years and may not have the social skills they once had. For most it’s a reassuring feeling that you are still attractive, you might learn some new techniques for your mate, and in many cases, it will increase the mutual attraction and love within the marriage.

I met Larry and Bobbi at a local Lifestyle club while writing an article about the subject. They had been going there every weekend for 4 years. They had a following of “friends” and were very social. That night Bobbi did an awesome lap dance for her husband to Joe Cocker’s “You Can Leave Your Hat On,” and needless to say, you can figure out the rest. I needed an insite as to what Lifestyle was all about and I was very comfortable talking to them. I asked them a lot of questions that night, and they had no problem talking about everything. They informed me about other swing clubs, lounges and internet sites where I could learn more. I kept in contact with them over the years, (Larry and I had a mutual interest of web design and graphics) so I would have conversations with them from time to time, about the Lifestyle groups.

Last year, Larry and Bobbi told me that they were opening Las Vegas’ premiere Lifestyle parties called LOVE at their “Lites of Vegas Estates.” The home is perfect, complete with a heart-shaped bathtub, spiral staircase and plenty of private rooms and baths as well as valet parking. I asked them if I might talk to them more about themselves, their own experience in Las Vegas, and why they decided to start LOVE parties.

SLV: Where did you both meet, and how long have you been married?

LOVE: We grew up in Texas. We’ve known each other since we were in grade school, but we have been married for almost 20 years.

SLV: So being married for twenty years, how long have you been in the Lifestyle during your marriage?

LOVE: About 6 years now. When we decided to get into the Lifestyle, the whole experience was “the first year to ourselves” basically. It took that long for us to be able to find friends, because you only go on the weekends, so we just talked and visited and went on-line a lot. We have always been friendly, but not everyone will give you the time. Sometimes we would just sit in the corner watching everyone else. We eventually moved on.

SLV: Have you seen any changes in the Lifestyle groups in the last 6 years since you first thought about it yourself, and what has changed?

LOVE: Yes, it’s grown so much and it seems like there are more and more individuals that are wanting to learn about the Lifestyle. There are so many Lifestyle internet sites that people can post on. With chatting, video, message boards, etc., and you wouldn’t believe some of the photos that are on the websites now! Wow! People are really exploring all the possibilities, and they are very comfortable with themselves and the community of like-minded people. We personally think it’s great that you can be yourself and not worry about what other people think. If you want to put it out there, there are many people who feel the same and they will acknowledge you either way. You can
go as far as you want to with telling everyone who you are and what rules you have, etc. Everyone is tight with their mate, and this is just another way of exploring all possibilities.

SLV: Have you learned a lot since you’ve had your house parties? It must be a lot of hard work too?

LOVE: Yes. Not everyone is jumping into bed with everyone, they also want to come out to have a good time socially too, and we provide a place where they can let their hair down and explore another side of themselves that they couldn’t do at a regular club. We were raised with the Texas saying: “Drive Friendly,” and we have strived towards that. We started out last year with a test party and it worked out really well. We were thrilled, so we decided to have regular (invitation only) house parties. We care about everyone. We care that they are enjoying themselves. We’ve been told that we’re too nice of people. We think we are just like anyone else who is very comfortable in their life, their marriage, and what it took to get there. We raised our kids, have our debt, and still maintain a good lifestyle. It’s all about being in that place in your life when you can really say that! Not everyone can. We work hard to put this all together, but it’s definitely worth it. We have fun too.

SLV: It looks like you have thought this out a great deal to have done so much in so little time. You have a beautiful spacious home and have done so much to provide a comfortable place for people to party. What can a couple expect when they arrive at your house party?

LOVE: We have thought this out quite a bit and we provide you with a great atmosphere. You will be greeted by either myself, Bobbi or one of our hosts to take you on a full tour and will introduce you to guests, not just let you sit in a corner. We have a professional sound system complete with a professional DJ “spinning” some great tunes throughout
the evening. Bobbi provides a wonderful display of foods with fruits and desserts. She even puts up a menu board, so you know what’s in the chafing dishes. On the first floor we have a billiards room with fireplace, on the second floor a movie room with fireplace, and the main bedroom has a fireplace. We have plenty of bedrooms with their own private baths. We also have a pool and Jacuzzi. In addition, we have Valet parking with Gentlemen that open the doors, so the ladies won’t have to walk too far and ruin their heels.

SLV: I heard that you both did most of the decorating? It is a beautiful home and it really looks like you put a lot of time and energy into the various rooms to be unlike anyone else.

LOVE: I’m not taking credit on this one, said Larry. It was really all Bobbi. She picked out all the murals, and painted the themed rooms, and has been the instrumental person in making this home comfortable for our friends. I am the technical person. I handle the building and designing of the website stuff and am involved in that part of it. We both do things around the home to get ready for the parties, which we only have on Friday and Saturday, but Bobbi is the one who really makes it happen.

SLV: What are some of the things you want now?

LOVE: We want what everybody wants. We also want to have fun and be able to provide a great place to have a good time, and when we have out-of-towners come by to enjoy the evening, we want them to go back home and say they had the best time in Las Vegas at LOVE. We want to give Vegas the type of Lifestyle party that people expect when they come to Vegas. With our southern downhome charm, and besides, “What happens in Vegas, Stays in Vegas” -right!! In the summer we will have some great pool parties, and we are “adding on “ (to the already existing 8,000 sq. ft. ), a new movie room and dance floor. People love to dance, and we want to give them more room to dance and socialize.

SLV: What advice would you give to a couple thinking about the Lifestyle. How do they approach the other mate if they are thinking they want to go to one of your parties?

LOVE: We didn’t expect anything when we first thought about being in the Lifestyle. I’m not really sure how it came up. We’ve been married for 20 years, and everything is very good. We just got curious. I think the best advise we can give to anyone thinking about it is to have confidence about themselves and their relationship. And you both have to have an interest in the Lifestyle. You both need to have a lot of communication with each other at all times in any situation, and first and foremost practice safe sex. You know with all of the things we are subject to in this society, at Strip LV • MARCH • 114
least we can say we promote LOVE. SLV